Do you feel hopelessly stuck — in the wrong city, the wrong job, or perhaps the wrong relationship? If so, what’s keeping you there? Making decisions is hard, but here’s the thing: you have the power of choice. Always. Even if you feel helpless; like everything is beyond your control; even if you have a list as long as your arm justifying why you’re paralyzed in whatever situation you find yourself. You get to choose the next step.
Sometimes you get to choose between bad and good. Sometimes between bad and slightly better. And sometimes you have to choose the better of two evils, but you always get to decide the next step.
If you don’t want to be a victim of circumstance, owning your power of choice is essential.
Every time we choose one option, we decline another. Yes to Italian means no to Indian. So what do we say when a friend asks where we want to go for dinner? We say, “I don’t mind. You choose!”
Caroline shares these in her Ted Talk. I highly recommend you take 25 minutes to give it a watch (keep scrolling). But if you can only spare two or three minutes right now, here they are in a nutshell:
Choice #1: Live with integrity.
If you don’t want to be walked on, don’t allow yourself to be walked on. Similarly, don’t walk on others. If you don’t want to be lied to, don’t tolerate lying. Similarly, don’t lie to others. You have the power of choice. Exercising it with integrity doesn’t allow for double standards.
Step out of your integrity and sure, you can probably find a way to justify your actions but, says Caroline, “
Choice #2: Share your wisdom, not your suffering.
Choice #3: Take risks.
I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself.
I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.
I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
These are among the most common regrets people have on their deathbeds. The only way to avoid such regrets is to take risks.
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So let me ask you this about that city, job, or relationship you no longer feel you belong in. In fact, let me ask you this about any decision you’re currently struggling to make. What would you choose to do if you were to let go of the fear and make the call, right now, to live with integrity, share your wisdom, and take a risk?
The power of choice is yours.
Viv for Today xo
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